After the interview is over, it is history.
There is nothing more to do but to accept that it happened and to move on. It will either lead to the next interview (the hiring process is often a multistage deal) or provide another opportunity to try again. Elementary school classrooms do not prepare people for the realities of competition for jobs. In that world, such subjects are left to be sorted out at recess on the playground. The playground is closer to the real. Life has many contests and competitions.
As in contests of any kind, interviews produce winners and losers. In elementary school games are “fixed”–designed so that nobody loses. Losing does not make any kid feel good about herself or her abilities and so the “being the loser” experience is to be avoided in elementary school.
Back in grown-up land, the last words in an interview should produce a clue as to the direction of the next step. This must be the reason so many recruiters giving advice on the subject of closing interviewers tell people, “ask for the job”. Ask for the business just as a good sales rep would. Ask if your ticket won. Act like you are properly invested in winning the contest. After all, you do want to win, don’t you? No? Then why be in the competition at all? It frustrates companies no end to pick a winner only to find out that the winner was “only practicing’. Plus, it is neither ethical or fair to take victory away from someone who really does want the job. To the person being shaken out of the competition in this cowardly manner it feels like being rejected as a date for the prom or being the last picked for a position on the team. In elementary school, being the last one picked for a team means hearing the captain say, “well, I guess I’m stuck with taking …”.
Waking up the day after a date with full knowledge that a call for a second date will never come does not make a safe place in the stomach for ice-cream.
- Interviewing Tip For Sales: Don’t Discount Early Work Experience (customerthink.com)